are the foundation
of a fulfilling life.”
–Linda and Charlie Bloom
Happily Ever After...and 39 Other Myths About Love
It’s not so much the things we don’t know about relationships that can hurt us but rather the things we think we know. These unfounded beliefs or “myths” permeate our culture and take root in our minds, preventing many couples from doing the work required to build a solid, lasting relationship. This book not only shows how myths can do great damage to a relationship but demonstrates how to disengage from them and replace inaccurate views with the kind of clarity that healthy relationships require. It offers practical guidance that can turn a breakdown into a breakthrough!
Each chapter presents an alternative to the myth and offers tools and suggestions for disproving harmful assumptions and instead, adopting practices and skills that will keep your relationship thriving. Happily Ever After and 39 Other Myths about Love contains easily absorbed nuggets of wisdom and entertaining anecdotes, stories, and vignettes that illustrate the essential messages contained in each chapter. After reading this book, couples will find new ways to strengthen and heal their relationships and move toward actualization of the type of love they thought only occurred in fairy tales!
“The Blooms are professional,
and a delight to work with.”
— Catherine S.
“With Secrets of Great Marriages the Blooms have captured the essence of true partnership and what it involves.”
— Marianne Williamson, spiritual teacher, author, and lecturer.
“Take their work as golden. Linda and Charlie have walked the talk!”
— Pat Love Ed.D. author of The Truth about Love.
Welcome to Bloomwork!
Successful relationships are the cornerstone of a thriving life. While most of us understand this, embodying the qualities and engaging in the practices that promote strong and respectful connections with life partners, co-workers, friends, and others is a formidable challenge for most of us. Yet the ability to create fulfilling relationships is a skill that can, given adequate knowledge, support, and practice, be developed and fully integrated into our lives. Even those of us who have had painful or difficult experiences in past family or romantic relationships, can, under the right conditions learn to master the art of relationship.
At Bloomwork, we are dedicated to assisting individuals, couples and organizations to enhance their relationship-building skills by offering practices and tools that facilitate this process. We customize our offerings to the specific needs of our clients. The skills that we offer support in developing include:
- The art of “conscious combat” -managing relationship differences effectively.
- Getting “unstuck” from entrenched interactional patterns.
- Creating networks of ongoing support.
- Developing “enlightened self-interest”.
- Fulfilling the need to simultaneously provide care and support to my partner and myself as well.
- Becoming a life-long learner.
- Managing moods effectively.
- Living in gratitude.
- Moving from breakdowns to breakthroughs.
- Transforming a good relationship to a great one.
Married since 1972, Linda and Charlie Bloom have been working with groups, individuals, couples and organizations to enhance the quality of their relationships and communication skills since 1975. They both have Master’s degrees in Clinical Social Work and have lectured, led seminars and provided consultation at universities and learning institutes throughout the United States as well as internationally. They have written and published three books,Happily Ever After…and 39 Other Myths about Love: Breaking Through to the Relationship of Your Dreams, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last, and Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Stories from Real Couples about Lasting Love.
Their organization, Bloomwork is dedicated to promoting healthy, fulfilling, and successful relationships for individuals, couples and organizations. They have served as psychotherapists, marriage counselors, consultants and seminar leaders since 1975. In addition to their academic and professional training, the Blooms’ expertise in the field of relationships stems from experience in the crucible of their own committed partnership of over 45 years. Their best-selling book, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last has been translated into several languages and distributed world-wide. Since its publication in 2004 it has sold over 100,000 copies.