An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships

Navigating conflict is one of the biggest challenges for any relationship. It’s often one of the main reasons couples seek couples therapy, and one of the biggest factors leading to divorce. Today, more than ever, communication skills are essential for preventing the ongoing arguments that often lead to separation, and for the creation of healthy, loving relationships.

Drawing on insights from their work with individuals and couples over the years, Linda and Charlie Bloom offer user-friendly practices and strategies that apply to all relationships, not just intimate partnerships. 

Readers will learn:

  • The art of “conscious combat”: managing relationship differences productively, not destructively.
  • Getting “unstuck” from entrenched interactional patterns.
  • Creating networks of ongoing support.
  • Developing “enlightened self-interest”.
  • Fulfilling the need to simultaneously provide care and support to their partner without neglecting their own needs.
  • Managing moods effectively.
  • Living in gratitude.
  • Transforming breakdowns into breakthroughs.
  • Upleveling a good relationship to a great one!

An End to Arguing convincingly shows how destructive conflicts can be prevented and provides helpful tips for effective communication, lessons for individual and interpersonal growth, and advice to repair damaged relationships. The book doesn’t just provide a way of preventing differences from turning into painful conflict; it gives the reader an insight into what qualities are inherent in argument-free relationships The way of getting there may be simpler than you think!

Praise for An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships

“In this very useful book, Charlie and Linda Bloom have an assembly of tools for every occasion. Every couple should keep it beside their bed and absorb it until they internalize it all.” – Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and Making Marriage Simple

“Powerful medicine is offered here: a book that expands your understanding, supports, kindly instructs, and skillfully challenges you to grow in love, and shows you 101 wise and helpful ways to do it!” – Jack Kornfield, PhD, author of A Path with Heart

. . . an amazingly comprehensive presentation of relational challenges in which the commitment to non-hostility is the prelude to fruitful negotiations. Perhaps the universal first instruction to couples in distress could be: ‘Stop! Calm down! Get a grip! Now talk.'” – Sylvia Boorstein, PhD, co-founder of the Spirit Rock Meditation Center, author of Happiness is an Inside Job: Practicing for a Joyful Life

“There is wisdom in these pages for parents, teachers, friendships, business relationships, as well as for groups and teams.” – Susan Campbell, PhD, author of The Couples JourneyGetting Real, and Five-Minute Relationship Repair

. . . the ultimate handbook of conflict management, resolution, and avoidance that you will ever need. Charlie and Linda’s book provides excellent guidance . . . Their book offers hope where there had been despair, and a return to deep love, when we’ve lost our way.” – Sage Lavine, author of Women Rocking Business

“This is a marvelous book written by two highly experienced, expert couples’ therapists. . . . a must-read for any couple, married or not, who want to learn about or improve their relationship.” – John W. Jacobs, MD, author of All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage

“This book is destined to become a well-thumbed reference on your bedroom bookshelf.” – Tina Gilbertson, author of Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child

“If you’ve ever wished for a manual that will help you to prevent painful interpersonal conflict and effectively repair it if it does occur, this is the book you’ve been waiting for!” – Margaret Paul, author of Inner Bonding

“There are bushels of relationship advice books. What distinguishes those by Linda and Charlie Bloom, including their latest An End to Arguing is their fusion of their wisdom and personal transparency. . . . This well-written compassionate book is worth any couple’s time.” – David Kerns, author of Fortnight on Maxwell Street and Standard of Care

“Linda and Charlie Bloom’s latest book, An End to Arguing is filled with 101 reader-friendly, practical nuggets of guidance and wisdom that will come in handy to anyone who has ever felt the need for a manual for managing and preventing conflict, not only in personal relationships, but in any relationship in which differences arise.” – Ken Dychtwald, author of Bodymind; and Maddy Dychtwald, author of Cycles: How We Live, Work and Buy